What to Do When He Proposes

Just like i promised.
You agree men would always want women for a variety of reasons and we already discussed the different stages and needs that men may have towrds you as well as you possible response. if you didnt get that don't worry you can catch up with the link at the bottom of this page.
What do you do, when a man proposes; proposing, is not you assuming the both of you are headed for marriage but he "asking" you to marry him and be his helpmeet.

First reaction is important, if he's wise he'll watch for your body language. if you do like him show it and be excited but you need to think about first before giving an answer. you need to think well, about what?

your maturity
his christian life
background differences
his maturity
Do you want to marry him
would you want his last name
kids
intimacy
Food
Finances
Job
just name, think about all them, in case of reservations, let him know and discuss it. this is not to say you must be similar in everything but to help know the pros and cons of living with him everyday of life and deciding if you are willing to happily overlooked his weakness.
You both can never be the same, even twin siblings are not.
he is not you, your brother or father so don't expect him to act like them
Get your facts straight and talk to frineds that are elderly, pray about it and wait, this can be weeks or months but if he's really serious about you he will wait.
Always remember a failed courtship is better than a failed marriage, be mature enough to admit danger signs and walk away.
Goodluck

Men want women:What women should do

Its no secret neither is it a lie that men chemically respond to women, sometimes involuntarily.
As a woman i would like you to know 10 facts about men wanting women and how to handle such attention when it arrises.
At work, school, church and virtually everywhere we go, men are around and if you have been with us for a while you would know that as an attractive woman the attention you get is limitless.

How do men want women or how do they show they want you

don't mistake this for sexual wanting, no that's not exactly what am talking about becuase i believe if they want you just for sex, something is wrong. As a woman you have certain traits that soothes the man in them outside sexual relations. such traits are but not limited to;

• your beauty
• your calmness and serenity
• your motherly personality
• your smile and soothing words
• your listening ear
• your body
• your perspective
• your love and attention
• your smiles
•  your hair 

Now what do you do when men approach you especially if you can't tell exactly what attracted them.
Use all the personality above excluding body to make them feel at home.
Never disrespect them, because if you, no matter how endowed you are they stay away and the bad ones plan to hurt you.
Don't give them 100% because you don't belong to them
Set boundaries on physical touch, emotional manipulation (women fall for words), outings and phone calls
Be sure to speak up immediately when they do things you don't approve of.
Don't be afraid to compete healthily with them

What To Do When You Get Dating

Give 70% you are not his wife
No sleeping over and showing him everything, if you do that why would he want to marry you
Cook for him only on special/specific occasions
Be sincere and tell him exaclty where you are when he calls to know
Ask questions when you need clarification
Set boundaries to intimacy
Don't dump your problems on him
keep a conscious note in mind that HE IS NOT YOURS yet
NOTHING IS DO OR DIE, LEARN TO LET GO WHEN ITS DANGEROUS AND DEGRADING
Never fall for sweet tones, stay away from over impressive men
Learn to say No and walk away
Don't text life out of him

What To Do When He Says Marry Me
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i want to be attractive: how to attract women

Weddings, Women Must Have for a Solid Marriage

As ladies our one non changing dream from childhood is usually the day you walk down the aisle in a white dress, moving towards the most handsome and compatible male we've ever met.
 But in all its fantasies and anxiety you can get overwhelmed and fail to realise that the day itself isn't what really matters. yes, its okay to want the best day but it will end in a few hours and everyone will go home leaving you with your prince charming.The first night is great, the next and the next, you give it one month you're both bored and start looking for excitement somewhere else.
So instead of planning a fairytale wedding lets plan a 'not a bed of roses marriage'
What I mean is, steps and precautions to take before you say i do,if you dont take this steps here are your consequences:

• boredom
• anger/iritation
• fights and arguments
• family interference
• financial crisis

To avoid the above and much more here's your top 10 must have for a fairytale wedding and a solid happy marriage.

Ask yourself if he were to be cripled and old overnight would i still love him?
If you answer to that is yes after thinking it through thoroughly then i choose to believe you do love your husband/groom.

Decide how you intend to spend,save and share joint profits; will you both have joint accounts or deposit a percentage of your monthly income to a joint family account. Who will be paying for what? how and what will the money in your joint savings account be used.

State clearly or display exactly who you are before marriage, so he doesn't tell you "i didn't know you were this way or i wouldn't have married you"

Let him know your goals and business/schooling aspirations and agree or disagree on them, so you can both find a common ground on it.

How do you intend to accomodate his family, please let him know what you cannot tolerate. its difficult but will set a whole lot of record straight.

Ensure you guys can spend hours together doing fun things, believe some couples have never spent over 3 hours together so when marriage puts them there, it becomes a challenge and they can't stand each other.

Make up your mind to let go a little bit of hanging out with your friends because you won't have that time anymore, especially male ones unless if you would be fine with him hanging out with a girlfriend regularly.

Love his family and value his friends

Respect, Respect and Respect cannot be overemphasized if you don't give it to him, someone else will. never antagonize him in public or ignore his request.

Sex, okay i wish i could skip that but the list wont be complete, as you should male and female are wired differently so i'll recommend you get a good clean book on this topic if you are as naive as some of us. Because they are very active.

Food is vital, a hungry man is an angry man, bad food is worst so do learn to cook especially his favourite if you expect him to come home straight from work daily.

Compliments always tell them when they look good or do good things, please be sincere and nicely point out negative actions or traits.

Love covers a multitude of sin, so from the first question getting a yes answer,you can do this. you can be a good submissive wife who cares for and attends to the needs of her husband.
Don't bother about yours, if you meet his, yours will be met.
Goodluck and let me know if you have any personal questions.

How to have a fun Monday

I have been thinking about my weekend and what i could possibly do to have fun and let go of all the work stress and up tightness, in my quest to have a blast weekend i compiled a list of things to do on a Saturday which is basically the only free day, because Friday is still work day though some may get and early off and Sunday is church which i can't afford to miss. so for me to be the most cheerful and be counted as one of the most cheerful person around on Monday while everyone else is stone face my weekend must be a great preparation.

Cook: if you love food like i do, you will know cooking, especially delicacies and specialities is a treat and a fun chore. now i watched food channels and have some really cool recipes I'll like to try, so why not go grocery shopping on Friday after work and watch for fresh,trans fat free and low cholesterol and fat foods.

Watch a movie with friends: this is a perfect indoor Saturday night, invite over some lazy friends of yours for the whole day,pick a meal you can all prepare,eat, gist and round up the night with a classic comic movie. you'll remember it for weeks!

take a trip to the park with your family: pack up a picnic and move to a far away park with your family or friends, if you prefer, get story books, old photos and journals. no phone, no email, its family time. engage in all available activities. you will all come home relaxed.

add that to a refreshing Sunday and you’ll have a fabulous Monday with fun memories.

 

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What Is Love Exactly?

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.” —I Corinthians 13:4-8a (NIV)

 This verse describes the characteristics of true love. These qualities can certainly be found in the person of Jesus Christ, and they can be found in all truly loving relationships. The problem with trying to “find” love in our dating lives, is that too often we don't look for these characteristics. Rather we look at physical appearance, popularity, or wealth. These are not the qualities that God looks at and neither should we.

But the LORD said to Samuel, “…The LORD does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart.”
—I Samuel 16:7b (NIV)

Love is best seen as devotion and action, not an emotion. Love is not exclusively based on how we feel. Certainly our emotions are involved, but they cannot be our only criteria for love. True devotion will always lead to action—true love.

Dear children, let us not love with words or tongue but with ACTIONS and in truth.
      I John 3:18 (NIV)

Christ was devoted to us enough to give his own life for us (Romans 5:8), even when he didn't feel like it (Matthew 26:39).
Sex is not love! Our culture has taught us that sex and love are one in the same. This is a lie. Sex is a beautiful God-given activity that is wonderful when practiced within the boundaries of a Biblical marriage. Sex is the completion of the binding of two people within Biblical marriage; it is a God-given gift.
Because premarital sex is not love, it only leads to pain and disappointment for those who are seeking that love. The Bible says that when two people are married, they become one flesh (Ephesians 5:31). Sex is consummation of that union. When two people break off their relationship after having sex, it is like ripping apart flesh. This is why two teenagers will struggle so much and become so dependent on those they give their bodies to. In light of I Corinthians 13:4-8 (above), it is easy to see that premarital sex is not patient, it is not kind, it does not protect, it is self-seeking. It is not love!

We can only identify true love and know when we have found it, based on the Word of God. When we match our relationships up to what the Bible says that love is—and we are honestly prepared to make a life-long commitment to that person—then we can say that we are truly “in love.” The three keys to that statement are:
We have to…

1. …look at the Word of God
2. …be completely honest with ourselves
3. …understand the level of commitment that comes with true love

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Top 5 fashion blunders

  Never ever should a lady be caught dead committing these blunders in dressing. you might not like to follow fashion trends, you might not be wealthy or you may be filthy rich but never, ever let anyone see you not even on your death bed.

top 5 ladies fashion blunders.

you might not agree with all or some of them, but your opinions are always welcomed, and of course i would love to add your own list.

A woman over 20 should stay away from pig tails, you know that hair styles that kids and teens love, parking their hair in two separate tails.

Leggings: leggings can never replace trousers no matter how beautiful or fashionable they are, i see a lot of Nigerian women wearing leggings with a very short top! do not wear it as trousers, i.e leggings are meant to be worn with longer tops. my goodness you need to see the shape of their backside and front side in those pants its horrible!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Flesh coloured pants: i totally hate and though some have argued with these. i believe and ‘it’ lady should not be caught dead wearing a pants, underwear or leggings that is coloured and designed like your skin. its terrible and embarrassing makes you look like a drawing!

Trainers: no i am not saying do not wear trainers, i am saying do not wear them to work, stroll, or visits. its meant for running alone people! do not be caught dead wearing a pair of trainers to anyway besides running.

Nose Picking: Never let even a house mouse catch you picking your nose! oh my gush its so humiliating when you have been unconsciously picking your nose and you turn around to find someone staring at you with a scowl orrggghhh. no way.

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Top 5 fashion blunders

  Never ever should a lady be caught dead committing these blunders in dressing. you might not like to follow fashion trends, you might not be wealthy or you may be filthy rich but never, ever let anyone see you not even on your death bed.

top 5 ladies fashion blunders.

you might not agree with all or some of them, but your opinions are always welcomed, and of course i would love to add your own list.

A woman over 20 should stay away from pig tails, you know that hair styles that kids and teens love, parking their hair in two separate tails.

Leggings: leggings can never replace trousers no matter how beautiful or fashionable they are, i see a lot of Nigerian women wearing leggings with a very short top! do not wear it as trousers, i.e leggings are meant to be worn with longer tops. my goodness you need to see the shape of their backside and front side in those pants its horrible!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Flesh coloured pants: i totally hate and though some have argued with these. i believe and ‘it’ lady should not be caught dead wearing a pants, underwear or leggings that is coloured and designed like your skin. its terrible and embarrassing makes you look like a drawing!

Trainers: no i am not saying do not wear trainers, i am saying do not wear them to work, stroll, or visits. its meant for running alone people! do not be caught dead wearing a pair of trainers to anyway besides running.

Nose Picking: Never let even a house mouse catch you picking your nose! oh my gush its so humiliating when you have been unconsciously picking your nose and you turn around to find someone staring at you with a scowl orrggghhh. no way.

Top 10 must have in a lady’s bag

As a lady of Class, an attractive lady. a purse of hand bag is sort of compulsory. so if you get sweaty, soiled or need to prepare for an emergency meeting. you definitely need a bag.

sometimes your face does not look so good in the noon, especially if you have been under the sun. sweat, perspiration can wash away your makeup or melt it off, making you look like a wrestler! well for us black ladies its worse, for one the sun is deadly and then we walk a lot under it and engage in strenuous activities. for me, noon time is not the best time unless if someone is going to ride me around in a fully air conditioned car. hahaha

topping my list and most essential is:

a mobile phone: in case you get lost or need to contact someone at home. its very important.

a purse: which will essentially contain your debit and credit cards, including notes and cash you will be using.

hair Brush: if it happens to get windy, or you take a bus, cab or bike that left its windows open, your hair can really get messed up. a quick brush when you alight will help.

Tissue or face towel: Nigeria is really dusty and hot, if you are like me who is  not among the first class citizens, always carry a pack of tissue or towel to clean off dust deposits, sweat from the face or clothes before reapplying make up.

lip balm: some lip gloss are so fake they don't last 3 hours, if you have chapped or cracked lips, or you are prone to having them. take a lip balm with you to keep your delicate lips shielded from the rays, soft and smooth.

a pressed or loosed powder: to refresh your face at any time of the day.

Mirror: a small compact mirror can not be over emphasised, so i wont say much.

Lip Gloss

Deodorant

Mint to preserve your fresh breath

A notebook, bic/pen/biro

and any other extra you need.

yeah yeah i know its a little bit above 10, sue me lol

love you all!

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