Weddings, Women Must Have for a Solid Marriage

As ladies our one non changing dream from childhood is usually the day you walk down the aisle in a white dress, moving towards the most handsome and compatible male we've ever met.
 But in all its fantasies and anxiety you can get overwhelmed and fail to realise that the day itself isn't what really matters. yes, its okay to want the best day but it will end in a few hours and everyone will go home leaving you with your prince charming.The first night is great, the next and the next, you give it one month you're both bored and start looking for excitement somewhere else.
So instead of planning a fairytale wedding lets plan a 'not a bed of roses marriage'
What I mean is, steps and precautions to take before you say i do,if you dont take this steps here are your consequences:

• boredom
• anger/iritation
• fights and arguments
• family interference
• financial crisis

To avoid the above and much more here's your top 10 must have for a fairytale wedding and a solid happy marriage.

Ask yourself if he were to be cripled and old overnight would i still love him?
If you answer to that is yes after thinking it through thoroughly then i choose to believe you do love your husband/groom.

Decide how you intend to spend,save and share joint profits; will you both have joint accounts or deposit a percentage of your monthly income to a joint family account. Who will be paying for what? how and what will the money in your joint savings account be used.

State clearly or display exactly who you are before marriage, so he doesn't tell you "i didn't know you were this way or i wouldn't have married you"

Let him know your goals and business/schooling aspirations and agree or disagree on them, so you can both find a common ground on it.

How do you intend to accomodate his family, please let him know what you cannot tolerate. its difficult but will set a whole lot of record straight.

Ensure you guys can spend hours together doing fun things, believe some couples have never spent over 3 hours together so when marriage puts them there, it becomes a challenge and they can't stand each other.

Make up your mind to let go a little bit of hanging out with your friends because you won't have that time anymore, especially male ones unless if you would be fine with him hanging out with a girlfriend regularly.

Love his family and value his friends

Respect, Respect and Respect cannot be overemphasized if you don't give it to him, someone else will. never antagonize him in public or ignore his request.

Sex, okay i wish i could skip that but the list wont be complete, as you should male and female are wired differently so i'll recommend you get a good clean book on this topic if you are as naive as some of us. Because they are very active.

Food is vital, a hungry man is an angry man, bad food is worst so do learn to cook especially his favourite if you expect him to come home straight from work daily.

Compliments always tell them when they look good or do good things, please be sincere and nicely point out negative actions or traits.

Love covers a multitude of sin, so from the first question getting a yes answer,you can do this. you can be a good submissive wife who cares for and attends to the needs of her husband.
Don't bother about yours, if you meet his, yours will be met.
Goodluck and let me know if you have any personal questions.

How to deal with annoying colleagues

It really annoying and frustrating to have to see and interact everyday with someone who gets on your nerve at the workplace especially if the one is a little higher than you.

Simple things than can cause bitterness in the works are

• he is always ordering you around and has no sense of politeness
• he sends you on irrelevant errands, e.g you wrote your report and dropped it where its supposed to be but he says go get it and read to me, how annoying
• he asks questions like you are a child that needs to be walked through every little thing

• he questions every step you take and you have to explain, your boss wanted it that way and so on. now that can be really uncomfortable for both an introvert or extrovert.

the extrovert will simply not be able to contain it and may blow up saying all the wrong things which people may not really find cool.
the introvert will endure in silence thereby leading to bitterness which is not healthy for beautiful women.
so how do we do it, here's my little strategy which am about to apply because someone is really getting to me and am an extrovert.

you are going to go nicely to him/her when you calmed and free of nerves and ask "can i talk to you for a sec?"
"yes sure" his reply
"i've been wondering, if i may have done something to upset you or make your angry"
if he gives you reasons,good ones apologise and leave pending when he repeats the attitude.
if he says nothing then you explained that you do not appreciate his contenance and reactions towards you, avoid trying to name instances, that show you kept records and beautiful girls don't have time fo that.
tell him, that you apreciate your working together and the job but you cannot tolerate his attitude of authoritarianism or control because he didnt employ you and even though he holds a higher position you expect some form of respect from him. let him know the job may be important but not at the expense of your self worth and you can live beyond him.
while you are at these, dont let him interrupt and be calm like you are telling a story.
when you're done ask if he has anything to say, listen quietly and don't interupt. if there are any misunderstanding explain carefully, apologise agian if need be and excuse yourself.

now you've not only proven you are well mannered, but earned he's respect but if he's one of those kinds that like to fight dirty, take it to your employer.
goodluck