Just like i promised.
You agree men would always want women for a variety of reasons and we already discussed the different stages and needs that men may have towrds you as well as you possible response. if you didnt get that don't worry you can catch up with the link at the bottom of this page.
What do you do, when a man proposes; proposing, is not you assuming the both of you are headed for marriage but he "asking" you to marry him and be his helpmeet.
First reaction is important, if he's wise he'll watch for your body language. if you do like him show it and be excited but you need to think about first before giving an answer. you need to think well, about what?
your maturity
his christian life
background differences
his maturity
Do you want to marry him
would you want his last name
kids
intimacy
Food
Finances
Job
just name, think about all them, in case of reservations, let him know and discuss it. this is not to say you must be similar in everything but to help know the pros and cons of living with him everyday of life and deciding if you are willing to happily overlooked his weakness.
You both can never be the same, even twin siblings are not.
he is not you, your brother or father so don't expect him to act like them
Get your facts straight and talk to frineds that are elderly, pray about it and wait, this can be weeks or months but if he's really serious about you he will wait.
Always remember a failed courtship is better than a failed marriage, be mature enough to admit danger signs and walk away.
Goodluck
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Monday, 16 September 2013
Friday, 13 September 2013
Men want women:What women should do
Its no secret neither is it a lie that men chemically respond to women, sometimes involuntarily.
As a woman i would like you to know 10 facts about men wanting women and how to handle such attention when it arrises.
At work, school, church and virtually everywhere we go, men are around and if you have been with us for a while you would know that as an attractive woman the attention you get is limitless.
How do men want women or how do they show they want you
don't mistake this for sexual wanting, no that's not exactly what am talking about becuase i believe if they want you just for sex, something is wrong. As a woman you have certain traits that soothes the man in them outside sexual relations. such traits are but not limited to;
Use all the personality above excluding body to make them feel at home.
Never disrespect them, because if you, no matter how endowed you are they stay away and the bad ones plan to hurt you.
Don't give them 100% because you don't belong to them
Set boundaries on physical touch, emotional manipulation (women fall for words), outings and phone calls
Be sure to speak up immediately when they do things you don't approve of.
Don't be afraid to compete healthily with them
What To Do When You Get Dating
Give 70% you are not his wife
No sleeping over and showing him everything, if you do that why would he want to marry you
Cook for him only on special/specific occasions
Be sincere and tell him exaclty where you are when he calls to know
Ask questions when you need clarification
Set boundaries to intimacy
Don't dump your problems on him
keep a conscious note in mind that HE IS NOT YOURS yet
NOTHING IS DO OR DIE, LEARN TO LET GO WHEN ITS DANGEROUS AND DEGRADING
Never fall for sweet tones, stay away from over impressive men
Learn to say No and walk away
Don't text life out of him
What To Do When He Says Marry Me
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i want to be attractive: how to attract women
As a woman i would like you to know 10 facts about men wanting women and how to handle such attention when it arrises.
At work, school, church and virtually everywhere we go, men are around and if you have been with us for a while you would know that as an attractive woman the attention you get is limitless.
How do men want women or how do they show they want you
don't mistake this for sexual wanting, no that's not exactly what am talking about becuase i believe if they want you just for sex, something is wrong. As a woman you have certain traits that soothes the man in them outside sexual relations. such traits are but not limited to;
- your beauty
- your calmness and serenity
- your motherly personality
- your smile and soothing words
- your listening ear
- your body
- your perspective
- your love and attention
- your smiles
- your hair
Use all the personality above excluding body to make them feel at home.
Never disrespect them, because if you, no matter how endowed you are they stay away and the bad ones plan to hurt you.
Don't give them 100% because you don't belong to them
Set boundaries on physical touch, emotional manipulation (women fall for words), outings and phone calls
Be sure to speak up immediately when they do things you don't approve of.
Don't be afraid to compete healthily with them
What To Do When You Get Dating
Give 70% you are not his wife
No sleeping over and showing him everything, if you do that why would he want to marry you
Cook for him only on special/specific occasions
Be sincere and tell him exaclty where you are when he calls to know
Ask questions when you need clarification
Set boundaries to intimacy
Don't dump your problems on him
keep a conscious note in mind that HE IS NOT YOURS yet
NOTHING IS DO OR DIE, LEARN TO LET GO WHEN ITS DANGEROUS AND DEGRADING
Never fall for sweet tones, stay away from over impressive men
Learn to say No and walk away
Don't text life out of him
What To Do When He Says Marry Me
Coming up next to follow us
i want to be attractive: how to attract women
Thursday, 12 September 2013
Weddings, Women Must Have for a Solid Marriage
But in all its fantasies and anxiety you can get overwhelmed and fail to realise that the day itself isn't what really matters. yes, its okay to want the best day but it will end in a few hours and everyone will go home leaving you with your prince charming.The first night is great, the next and the next, you give it one month you're both bored and start looking for excitement somewhere else.
So instead of planning a fairytale wedding lets plan a 'not a bed of roses marriage'
What I mean is, steps and precautions to take before you say i do,if you dont take this steps here are your consequences:
- boredom
- anger/iritation
- fights and arguments
- family interference
- financial crisis
Ask yourself if he were to be cripled and old overnight would i still love him?
If you answer to that is yes after thinking it through thoroughly then i choose to believe you do love your husband/groom.
Decide how you intend to spend,save and share joint profits; will you both have joint accounts or deposit a percentage of your monthly income to a joint family account. Who will be paying for what? how and what will the money in your joint savings account be used.
State clearly or display exactly who you are before marriage, so he doesn't tell you "i didn't know you were this way or i wouldn't have married you"
Let him know your goals and business/schooling aspirations and agree or disagree on them, so you can both find a common ground on it.
How do you intend to accomodate his family, please let him know what you cannot tolerate. its difficult but will set a whole lot of record straight.
Ensure you guys can spend hours together doing fun things, believe some couples have never spent over 3 hours together so when marriage puts them there, it becomes a challenge and they can't stand each other.
Make up your mind to let go a little bit of hanging out with your friends because you won't have that time anymore, especially male ones unless if you would be fine with him hanging out with a girlfriend regularly.
Love his family and value his friends
Respect, Respect and Respect cannot be overemphasized if you don't give it to him, someone else will. never antagonize him in public or ignore his request.
Sex, okay i wish i could skip that but the list wont be complete, as you should male and female are wired differently so i'll recommend you get a good clean book on this topic if you are as naive as some of us. Because they are very active.
Food is vital, a hungry man is an angry man, bad food is worst so do learn to cook especially his favourite if you expect him to come home straight from work daily.
Compliments always tell them when they look good or do good things, please be sincere and nicely point out negative actions or traits.
Love covers a multitude of sin, so from the first question getting a yes answer,you can do this. you can be a good submissive wife who cares for and attends to the needs of her husband.
Don't bother about yours, if you meet his, yours will be met.
Goodluck and let me know if you have any personal questions.
Monday, 9 September 2013
How to have a fun Monday
Cook: if you love food like i do, you will know cooking, especially delicacies and specialities is a treat and a fun chore. now i watched food channels and have some really cool recipes I'll like to try, so why not go grocery shopping on Friday after work and watch for fresh,trans fat free and low cholesterol and fat foods.
Watch a movie with friends: this is a perfect indoor Saturday night, invite over some lazy friends of yours for the whole day,pick a meal you can all prepare,eat, gist and round up the night with a classic comic movie. you'll remember it for weeks!
take a trip to the park with your family: pack up a picnic and move to a far away park with your family or friends, if you prefer, get story books, old photos and journals. no phone, no email, its family time. engage in all available activities. you will all come home relaxed.
add that to a refreshing Sunday and you’ll have a fabulous Monday with fun memories.
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Friday, 6 September 2013
How to deal with annoying colleagues
It really annoying and frustrating to have to see and interact everyday with someone who gets on your nerve at the workplace especially if the one is a little higher than you.
Simple things than can cause bitterness in the works are
the introvert will endure in silence thereby leading to bitterness which is not healthy for beautiful women.
so how do we do it, here's my little strategy which am about to apply because someone is really getting to me and am an extrovert.
you are going to go nicely to him/her when you calmed and free of nerves and ask "can i talk to you for a sec?"
"yes sure" his reply
"i've been wondering, if i may have done something to upset you or make your angry"
if he gives you reasons,good ones apologise and leave pending when he repeats the attitude.
if he says nothing then you explained that you do not appreciate his contenance and reactions towards you, avoid trying to name instances, that show you kept records and beautiful girls don't have time fo that.
tell him, that you apreciate your working together and the job but you cannot tolerate his attitude of authoritarianism or control because he didnt employ you and even though he holds a higher position you expect some form of respect from him. let him know the job may be important but not at the expense of your self worth and you can live beyond him.
while you are at these, dont let him interrupt and be calm like you are telling a story.
when you're done ask if he has anything to say, listen quietly and don't interupt. if there are any misunderstanding explain carefully, apologise agian if need be and excuse yourself.
now you've not only proven you are well mannered, but earned he's respect but if he's one of those kinds that like to fight dirty, take it to your employer.
goodluck
Simple things than can cause bitterness in the works are
- he is always ordering you around and has no sense of politeness
- he sends you on irrelevant errands, e.g you wrote your report and dropped it where its supposed to be but he says go get it and read to me, how annoying
- he asks questions like you are a child that needs to be walked through every little thing
- he questions every step you take and you have to explain, your boss wanted it that way and so on. now that can be really uncomfortable for both an introvert or extrovert.
the introvert will endure in silence thereby leading to bitterness which is not healthy for beautiful women.
so how do we do it, here's my little strategy which am about to apply because someone is really getting to me and am an extrovert.
you are going to go nicely to him/her when you calmed and free of nerves and ask "can i talk to you for a sec?"
"yes sure" his reply
"i've been wondering, if i may have done something to upset you or make your angry"
if he gives you reasons,good ones apologise and leave pending when he repeats the attitude.
if he says nothing then you explained that you do not appreciate his contenance and reactions towards you, avoid trying to name instances, that show you kept records and beautiful girls don't have time fo that.
tell him, that you apreciate your working together and the job but you cannot tolerate his attitude of authoritarianism or control because he didnt employ you and even though he holds a higher position you expect some form of respect from him. let him know the job may be important but not at the expense of your self worth and you can live beyond him.
while you are at these, dont let him interrupt and be calm like you are telling a story.
when you're done ask if he has anything to say, listen quietly and don't interupt. if there are any misunderstanding explain carefully, apologise agian if need be and excuse yourself.
now you've not only proven you are well mannered, but earned he's respect but if he's one of those kinds that like to fight dirty, take it to your employer.
goodluck
Thursday, 5 September 2013
5 Simple Healthy Habits every woman must have
I have come to turn some simple acts into habits and the there are healthy, you see the manner and way in which you balance your health now will to a great extent determine how you will grow old. even though we don't like the though of growing old but we still don't want to die young. every one wants to live for decades and still be strong, beautiful and healthy. if you want these then its time to start cultivating this very simple habits that will go a long way to building your system for rainy days.
Habit 1: take a least 30 minutes walk per day, I know the car and cab issue makes it so easy to live months without exercising those gorgeous legs of yours. ensure to park at least 3 blocks from your destination and walk the rest.
Habit 2: drink water at least a glass every 3 hours. get a pack of water and drop in your car trunk, office and room so you can easily reach for it regularly.
Habit 3: don't ignore pains or discomforts you feel during the day, ensure call a doctor friend, don't have one and cant afford regular doctor checkups? just Google how you felt am sure you will get useful information but don't act on them unless you trust the site like WebMD.
Habit 4: try to keep a happy atmosphere, keep out all negativity. tell someone you would appreciate it if they don't speak evil things around you, or gossip and lies.
Habit 5: Pray, trust me its very refreshing and it doesn't mean you have to get a special position of place, just to talk to God while you drive and work.
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Habit 1: take a least 30 minutes walk per day, I know the car and cab issue makes it so easy to live months without exercising those gorgeous legs of yours. ensure to park at least 3 blocks from your destination and walk the rest.
Habit 2: drink water at least a glass every 3 hours. get a pack of water and drop in your car trunk, office and room so you can easily reach for it regularly.
Habit 3: don't ignore pains or discomforts you feel during the day, ensure call a doctor friend, don't have one and cant afford regular doctor checkups? just Google how you felt am sure you will get useful information but don't act on them unless you trust the site like WebMD.
Habit 4: try to keep a happy atmosphere, keep out all negativity. tell someone you would appreciate it if they don't speak evil things around you, or gossip and lies.
Habit 5: Pray, trust me its very refreshing and it doesn't mean you have to get a special position of place, just to talk to God while you drive and work.
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Being Attractive on a low budget
I hear all the time young ladies say 'I would really love to be attractive but I do not have the financial resources' what a misconception! you don't and will never need money to be attractive, its a thing that flows from the abundance of peace and love you have on the inside. Sorry to say, but if you don't love yourself and have an abundance of Peace its really difficult to be the favourite of those around you.
Now you might want to know how to get the Peace and 'self love' but I'll start with what there mean.
loving yourself to me is contented with your life, career and relationships, now you wont be content if you have garbage all around you or would you? As women who want to take control of their environment and feelings in a positive way you have to start cutting off some negative ROPES. they/there might be friends who constantly put you down directly or indirectly, a career that you despise and go for something you enjoy doing and concentrated on happy thoughts about yourself.
Peace is that innermost calmness, a life that's free of anxiety and worries. That is not to say you don't have problems, everyone does at one point but you should have a say as to how far you are going to worry about them and always ask yourself, worrying, crying, thinking and being angry 'will it help make it better?' if it wont you shouldn't give it time that's what women of virtue do.
Think on noble and productive things. lets say you badly need money for hospital bills, you can spend time constructing avenues to raise the money instead of brooding on how much of a total wreck you are, you don't need that bad stuff you are too special for that, you are God's MASTERPIECE!
you know what that means?, that you are not a mistake, or a leftover but a soul he took time to design and he will always be there, loving you no matter what.
so here's the conclusion for today. say these to yourself
I am beautiful
I am gorgeous
I am brilliant
Others don't just see it yet but I'll take this life of mine and make a success out of it and the whole world would know that I lived.
you should read this too http://beautifulnigeriangirl.blogspot.com/2012/08/beautiful-women-and-food.html
Now you might want to know how to get the Peace and 'self love' but I'll start with what there mean.
loving yourself to me is contented with your life, career and relationships, now you wont be content if you have garbage all around you or would you? As women who want to take control of their environment and feelings in a positive way you have to start cutting off some negative ROPES. they/there might be friends who constantly put you down directly or indirectly, a career that you despise and go for something you enjoy doing and concentrated on happy thoughts about yourself.
Peace is that innermost calmness, a life that's free of anxiety and worries. That is not to say you don't have problems, everyone does at one point but you should have a say as to how far you are going to worry about them and always ask yourself, worrying, crying, thinking and being angry 'will it help make it better?' if it wont you shouldn't give it time that's what women of virtue do.
Think on noble and productive things. lets say you badly need money for hospital bills, you can spend time constructing avenues to raise the money instead of brooding on how much of a total wreck you are, you don't need that bad stuff you are too special for that, you are God's MASTERPIECE!
you know what that means?, that you are not a mistake, or a leftover but a soul he took time to design and he will always be there, loving you no matter what.
so here's the conclusion for today. say these to yourself
I am beautiful
I am gorgeous
I am brilliant
Others don't just see it yet but I'll take this life of mine and make a success out of it and the whole world would know that I lived.
you should read this too http://beautifulnigeriangirl.blogspot.com/2012/08/beautiful-women-and-food.html
Thursday, 11 October 2012
What Is Love Exactly?
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.”
—I Corinthians 13:4-8a (NIV)
This verse describes the characteristics of true love. These qualities can certainly be found in the person of Jesus Christ, and they can be found in all truly loving relationships. The problem with trying to “find” love in our dating lives, is that too often we don't look for these characteristics. Rather we look at physical appearance, popularity, or wealth. These are not the qualities that God looks at and neither should we.
Sex is not love! Our culture has taught us that sex and love are one in the same. This is a lie. Sex is a beautiful God-given activity that is wonderful when practiced within the boundaries of a Biblical marriage. Sex is the completion of the binding of two people within Biblical marriage; it is a God-given gift.
Because premarital sex is not love, it only leads to pain and disappointment for those who are seeking that love. The Bible says that when two people are married, they become one flesh (Ephesians 5:31). Sex is consummation of that union. When two people break off their relationship after having sex, it is like ripping apart flesh. This is why two teenagers will struggle so much and become so dependent on those they give their bodies to. In light of I Corinthians 13:4-8 (above), it is easy to see that premarital sex is not patient, it is not kind, it does not protect, it is self-seeking. It is not love!
We can only identify true love and know when we have found it, based on the Word of God. When we match our relationships up to what the Bible says that love is—and we are honestly prepared to make a life-long commitment to that person—then we can say that we are truly “in love.” The three keys to that statement are:
We have to…
This verse describes the characteristics of true love. These qualities can certainly be found in the person of Jesus Christ, and they can be found in all truly loving relationships. The problem with trying to “find” love in our dating lives, is that too often we don't look for these characteristics. Rather we look at physical appearance, popularity, or wealth. These are not the qualities that God looks at and neither should we.
But the LORD said to Samuel, “…The LORD does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart.”Love is best seen as devotion and action, not an emotion. Love is not exclusively based on how we feel. Certainly our emotions are involved, but they cannot be our only criteria for love. True devotion will always lead to action—true love.
—I Samuel 16:7b (NIV)
Dear children, let us not love with words or tongue but with ACTIONS and in truth.Christ was devoted to us enough to give his own life for us (Romans 5:8), even when he didn't feel like it (Matthew 26:39).
I John 3:18 (NIV)
Sex is not love! Our culture has taught us that sex and love are one in the same. This is a lie. Sex is a beautiful God-given activity that is wonderful when practiced within the boundaries of a Biblical marriage. Sex is the completion of the binding of two people within Biblical marriage; it is a God-given gift.
Because premarital sex is not love, it only leads to pain and disappointment for those who are seeking that love. The Bible says that when two people are married, they become one flesh (Ephesians 5:31). Sex is consummation of that union. When two people break off their relationship after having sex, it is like ripping apart flesh. This is why two teenagers will struggle so much and become so dependent on those they give their bodies to. In light of I Corinthians 13:4-8 (above), it is easy to see that premarital sex is not patient, it is not kind, it does not protect, it is self-seeking. It is not love!
We can only identify true love and know when we have found it, based on the Word of God. When we match our relationships up to what the Bible says that love is—and we are honestly prepared to make a life-long commitment to that person—then we can say that we are truly “in love.” The three keys to that statement are:
We have to…
- …look at the Word of God
- …be completely honest with ourselves
- …understand the level of commitment that comes with true love
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Saturday, 5 May 2012
Women for Men
most times we are faced with so much loneliness and a feeling of not been alive that we seek solace, attention and love from the opposite sex. both men and women seek each other for various reasons some of which they never find solutions in the partners they find. i am going to talk about why we seek each other, the feelings we have when we find someone and the most likely end of it all. this is a personal opinion and no offence meant to anyone please. and other opinions and arguments are welcome.
WHY MEN SEEK WOMEN ONLINE
one of the most popular reason men seek women online is to play dirty tricks. the anonymous nature of online dating creates room for lies, deception and impersonation. most men are not what they would love to be in reality, maybe in regards to wealth, power or security. so if they seek women who can see them it would be difficult to exercise power over such women because they are not worth it but online they can lie and deceive thereby gaining the respect and love they crave from an ignorant woman.(no offence meant)
the second reason is lack of confidence and self esteem to approach women physically so they do it online were they do not need to speak face to face. in such relationships some also seek women they would naturally not approach in reality and demand for things they would not dare ask for in person.
its like talking to a translucent glass, we see but we don't really see
WHY WOMEN SEEK MEN ONLINE
for women is mostly loneliness. women are attention seeking in nature and we always want to be loved, pampered and told nice things. if we can not get such from our partners we seek them online. as a fact all men you meet online are always nice. haven’t you ever wondered why?
secondly, desperation for life partners or intimate partners forces women to search for men online.at a certain age if a woman has no steady partner she starts getting desperate for marriage. while some women seek fantasies they cant bring themselves to ask their partners in real life.
WHEN THEY FIND EACH OTHER
when this two group meet, unusual things begin to happen. they lie about their age, job, location, marital status, children, education etc. they give each other what they seek without restrictions love, fun, attention, respect, intimacy etc. they build dream lives together to a stage they stop living their normal lives and dwell in fantasies that such relationships will last forever, it does last for long in some cases, you withdraw offline and live online.
THE END OF IT ALL
they wake up from the dream and realize the time they wasted on a farce and the relationships they lost while dreaming. 10% of such relationship leads to marriage, out of the 10, 5% divorce under a year, 3% endure abusive relationships, only 2% live happily ever after. is it worth the time we give it? what if you don't get so lucky, I'm not saying its wrong to date online i just want you all to know the risk involved. while you meet men and women online and make good long lasting friends as i have too do not overlook reality. ‘ the devil you know……….’ I'll
let you complete that.
like I said its a personal opinion, yours are welcome. to all my beautiful women out there play but play safe!
WHY MEN SEEK WOMEN ONLINE
one of the most popular reason men seek women online is to play dirty tricks. the anonymous nature of online dating creates room for lies, deception and impersonation. most men are not what they would love to be in reality, maybe in regards to wealth, power or security. so if they seek women who can see them it would be difficult to exercise power over such women because they are not worth it but online they can lie and deceive thereby gaining the respect and love they crave from an ignorant woman.(no offence meant)
the second reason is lack of confidence and self esteem to approach women physically so they do it online were they do not need to speak face to face. in such relationships some also seek women they would naturally not approach in reality and demand for things they would not dare ask for in person.
its like talking to a translucent glass, we see but we don't really see
WHY WOMEN SEEK MEN ONLINE
for women is mostly loneliness. women are attention seeking in nature and we always want to be loved, pampered and told nice things. if we can not get such from our partners we seek them online. as a fact all men you meet online are always nice. haven’t you ever wondered why?
secondly, desperation for life partners or intimate partners forces women to search for men online.at a certain age if a woman has no steady partner she starts getting desperate for marriage. while some women seek fantasies they cant bring themselves to ask their partners in real life.
WHEN THEY FIND EACH OTHER
when this two group meet, unusual things begin to happen. they lie about their age, job, location, marital status, children, education etc. they give each other what they seek without restrictions love, fun, attention, respect, intimacy etc. they build dream lives together to a stage they stop living their normal lives and dwell in fantasies that such relationships will last forever, it does last for long in some cases, you withdraw offline and live online.
THE END OF IT ALL
they wake up from the dream and realize the time they wasted on a farce and the relationships they lost while dreaming. 10% of such relationship leads to marriage, out of the 10, 5% divorce under a year, 3% endure abusive relationships, only 2% live happily ever after. is it worth the time we give it? what if you don't get so lucky, I'm not saying its wrong to date online i just want you all to know the risk involved. while you meet men and women online and make good long lasting friends as i have too do not overlook reality. ‘ the devil you know……….’ I'll
let you complete that.
like I said its a personal opinion, yours are welcome. to all my beautiful women out there play but play safe!
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