But in all its fantasies and anxiety you can get overwhelmed and fail to realise that the day itself isn't what really matters. yes, its okay to want the best day but it will end in a few hours and everyone will go home leaving you with your prince charming.The first night is great, the next and the next, you give it one month you're both bored and start looking for excitement somewhere else.
So instead of planning a fairytale wedding lets plan a 'not a bed of roses marriage'
What I mean is, steps and precautions to take before you say i do,if you dont take this steps here are your consequences:
- boredom
- anger/iritation
- fights and arguments
- family interference
- financial crisis
Ask yourself if he were to be cripled and old overnight would i still love him?
If you answer to that is yes after thinking it through thoroughly then i choose to believe you do love your husband/groom.
Decide how you intend to spend,save and share joint profits; will you both have joint accounts or deposit a percentage of your monthly income to a joint family account. Who will be paying for what? how and what will the money in your joint savings account be used.
State clearly or display exactly who you are before marriage, so he doesn't tell you "i didn't know you were this way or i wouldn't have married you"
Let him know your goals and business/schooling aspirations and agree or disagree on them, so you can both find a common ground on it.
How do you intend to accomodate his family, please let him know what you cannot tolerate. its difficult but will set a whole lot of record straight.
Ensure you guys can spend hours together doing fun things, believe some couples have never spent over 3 hours together so when marriage puts them there, it becomes a challenge and they can't stand each other.
Make up your mind to let go a little bit of hanging out with your friends because you won't have that time anymore, especially male ones unless if you would be fine with him hanging out with a girlfriend regularly.
Love his family and value his friends
Respect, Respect and Respect cannot be overemphasized if you don't give it to him, someone else will. never antagonize him in public or ignore his request.
Sex, okay i wish i could skip that but the list wont be complete, as you should male and female are wired differently so i'll recommend you get a good clean book on this topic if you are as naive as some of us. Because they are very active.
Food is vital, a hungry man is an angry man, bad food is worst so do learn to cook especially his favourite if you expect him to come home straight from work daily.
Compliments always tell them when they look good or do good things, please be sincere and nicely point out negative actions or traits.
Love covers a multitude of sin, so from the first question getting a yes answer,you can do this. you can be a good submissive wife who cares for and attends to the needs of her husband.
Don't bother about yours, if you meet his, yours will be met.
Goodluck and let me know if you have any personal questions.
